“Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” –Tony Robbins
Your mind works like Google. And like Google, the answers you get back are based on the questions you ask.
When you ask poor questions, you get poor answers….
YOU: Why am I so fat?
YOUR BRAIN: Because you’re a pig!/Because you’re a lazy jerk!/Because donuts are delicious!
Ya see, your brain is going to find an answer to match the question you asked it.
The key, then, is to ask your brain quality questions. Quality questions that are going to lead to quality circumstances.
So the better question is…
YOU: How can I make it easier and cheaper to eat healthier?/What healthy foods do I already love that will help me lose weight naturally?/What can I learn from this situation that will help me look and feel fantastic forever?/How do I look and feel when I eat shitty processed food, and conversely, how do I look and feel when I eat real quality food?
[NOTE: the key is to attach pleasure to the desirable action (eating healthy), and attach pain to the undesirable action (eating shitty). Having to and wanting to, are two entirely different positions which create two entirely different results. When you remind yourself that eating healthy gives you energy, increases your mental clarity, increases your confidence, lowers your anxiety, statistically increases how much you earn, makes you look sexier, and attracts suitors to you…. now eating healthy looks a lot more attractive and is much easier to follow through on… rather than having an uninspiring goal of…. “I’m fat and wanna lose weight so I HAVE TO eat better.” That sort of mental framework won’t inspire you to achieve shit.]
Can you think of a time when you or someone you know asked a poor question??
Frequently, I’ll hear frustrated parents say to their disobedient kids…… “WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU?!?!” (albeit, this is the same way they talk to themselves and/or lover(s))
I always shake my head when I hear that. Which is often.
Little do these parents realize, in that way they are literally training their kids to subconsciously think there’s something wrong with them. It may be subtle. But nevertheless, still powerful.
The parents who do it right will calmly pull their child aside, crouch down to the child’s level, and say something such as, “Honey, why do you think (doing x-action) wasn’t a good choice?”
Yes, it takes more time and consideration, be it a parent or individual. However, this added effort will reap better results, and in the long run, save you much time and effort.
Remember, the quality of questions you ask yourself on a daily basis will determine the quality of your life. Period.
So how can you apply this lesson to your life right now? What are some better questions you could be asking yourself? It’ll make all the difference in your life!
Live different. Live free.