Kurshot's Thoughts, Life,

How To Live A Mediocre Life


My mission in life is to think small, live within my comfort zone, and shoot for realistic goals.

I’m going to a attend an overpriced 4 year college in a major I randomly picked out of a hat, rack up enough student loans to put me in debt for the next 10 years, and find an average day job with good benefits where expectations are low, I can skate by from merely showing up, and make enough to pay off my student loans.

I’ll marry a woman my parents and friends approve of, throw an extravagant wedding neither of us can afford, and have 2.5 kids hoping we get them into a good school and have enough money leftover after expenditures to put towards their college fund.

I’ll take a 2 week vacation every year to a cliché destination spot where I’ll pay 3 times more for drinks and spend the majority of my time laying on the beach turning over every 15 minutes to get an even tan.

During the week I will wake up to an annoying alarm clock, quickly scrub my body in the shower, drink my coffee, and rush off to work where I’ll sit in traffic, become enraged because I’m going to be late for work again for the 2nd time that week, and later, explain to my boss that it’ll never happen again.

At work I will daydream about what my life could be like while sitting in on endless meetings where we analyze data reports and get scolded for not meeting our quota the previous month.

After enduring another grueling and monotonous 8 hour shift, I will walk hopelessly to my car, head to the nearest bar, and proceed to drink until my anxiety dissipates and I can have a normal conversation with someone without wanting to strangle them or hang myself.

On my way home, I’ll freshen up so my wife doesn’t smell the stench of draft beer on my breath and try to come up with a good story for where I’ve been for the last 4 hours.

After arriving home, I’ll hang up my monkey suit, slither into bed, and mentally escape into my favorite TV series for an hour before passing out and repeating this routine 4 more times that week.

On the weekends, I will go out and get hammered with my buddies, or take the family somewhere nice where I will also get hammered.

By Sunday, I will feel like shit, lay on the couch all day not wanting to do anything, and dread the idea of work on Monday.

I will repeat this routine every week and every year for the next 40 years of my one life, until I finally retire, my company fucks me out of my pension, and my wife and I have to eek by on social security checks.

From that point forward, statistically, I will have roughly 5 years to live before the regrets build up and I realize I blew my life away trying to live a life outlined by the status quo.

I will die, be buried in the local cemetery, and soon be forgotten.


THE MESSAGE: Don’t let this be your story. Don’t settle. Dream BIG. Think outside of the box. Don’t follow the crowd. Do work that excites you. Don’t live your life based on how others think you should live it. Figure out the life YOU want to live, and never stop until that vision becomes a reality.

Don’t live ordinary. Live EXTRAORDINARY!

Much love <3

why college is an uneducated decision
Education, Kurshot's Thoughts, Mental,

Why Going To College Is An Uneducated Decision

Formal education such as college—although beneficial in some minute ways—is the most expensive and inefficient way to learn, grow, and become of value to oneself and to society.

In comparison to other forms of education, formal education does little to prepare human beings for a fulfilling life, let alone a rewarding career.

If grade school, college, and other formal education was so beneficial based on the time and money people invest in it, governments, corporations, and manipulative marketers wouldn’t be able to get away with a quarter of the shit they do.

Most 401k’s wouldn’t exist as they are.

Half of the prescription drug companies would vanish.

And I’d be out of business (Ultimate Freedom Lifestyle) because everyone would already know and understand all the information I sell.

One shining example of how poor a job formal education does is the complete lack of financial education offered from grade school on.

Money is one of the most important subjects to a citizen’s well-being and yet it’s not taught in public schools and most college level financial courses are a joke.

You’ll learn more from a simple 2-3 hour read such as Rich Dad, Poor Dad, then you will in the combined 16 years of grade school and college.

That fact is horrendous and embarrassing.

And here’s the craziest part: in this day and age, all the information that has ever existed—specifically that found in colleges—can be found on the Internet FOR FREE.

If people truly want to learn and become more valuable to themselves and others through the acquisition of knowledge, all they have to do is type in their question on Google, YouTube, or Quora, and they’ll be able to learn just about anything they desire, and certainly anything taught in a University.

(Exceptions include becoming a lawyer, doctor, engineer, etc, where a degree is essentially mandatory.)

Any problem that could possibly exist in one’s life, someone else has, more than likely, already figured out, and the answers are all on the interwebs right at your fingertips.

And if you’re dead set on taking a course from the likes of MIT, HARVARD, or even YALE, they’re all offered online for free on their own websites, through iTunesU, or many other resources such as Coursera.

Here’s what it says on MIT’s Open CourseWare page:

“There’s no signup, no enrollment, and no start or end dates. The entire OCW collection is always here for you. Freely browse and use it at your own pace.

Knowledge is your reward. We don’t offer credit or certificates for using OCW. Instead, use OCW to guide your own life-long learning, or use OCW to teach others.”

If the accumulation and application of valuable knowledge is really what you’re after—and it should be—it makes no sense to drop $50-100k on student loans and then spend the next 10+ years living in debt struggling to pay it off if you don’t immediately land a $100k+/year job, which clearly most won’t.

Today, accruing such debt is absolutely absurd.

The truth is, with student loans being handed out like candy—essentially free money in the short term—the market has adjusted and Universities have dramatically raised their prices on tuition to astronomical rates.

Students don’t care because they’re too naive to realize the impact of their decisions on their future self. I see it all the time; friends stuck working jobs they hate because they have to make $600-$800/monthly student loan payments.

If they take a job in their chosen field but realize it’s not for them, and then decide they want to take off and go travel the world to expand their experiences and figure out what they want to do with their life—they can’t.

They’re trapped.

Since 2008, student loan debt has gone up 84% (WTF?!)

It’s no longer about educating the future of this country, it’s about profiteering off the naiveté of the young and inexperienced.

If you want to learn, grow, and be of value to yourself and the world, find the right books, videos, and other resources on personal development, learn from them, and begin immediately applying what you’ve learned to real life situations.

If you’re NOT the entrepreneurial type, you can easily get an entry level job at a good company in a field you’re interested in, and if you show promise by adding tremendous value to the company, you can shoot right up the ladder, especially in a sales position.

The other thing is companies are beginning to change their rules about having a degree because there are too many examples of non-formally-educated 20-something year olds making a massive splash in the business world.

And if you DO have that entrepreneurial spirit, college is definitely not the path for you. You can start an online business that solves a bothersome problem in your OWN life as well as many others, or simply pick any one of the hundreds and thousands of business models out there that exist. Remember, you don’t have to reinvent the wheel. All you need to do is fulfill a need in the marketplace.

Stop listening to the “experts” because they’re just regurgitating rhetoric that appeals to the status quo.

If you want to get ahead of the lethargic masses, you need to become a leader—first for yourself, and secondly, for others.

You need to think for yourself and make your own observations about what’s going on in the world, this way you can make the best decisions for YOUR life.

Otherwise, you’ll more than likely end up in massive amounts of debt, become trapped working a job you hate in order to pay it all off, and end up living a life you dread.

If you take all your cues from the status quo, then you’ll never get further than the masses, which trust me, won’t be very far.

As much as it sucks to think about, most people are headed for a life of mediocrity, and they won’t figure it out until it’s far too late and the foundation of their lives have already been established.

This of course makes it much more difficult for people to change once the “concrete has set”, because at that point, most will settle for mediocrity instead of putting in the work to rebuild their lives.

So don’t follow what everyone else is doing. Be a leader for yourself and others.

And as a rule of thumb, ALWAYS question the status quo. If everyone’s doing it, there’s a high chance it’s the wrong way or there’s a better way.

Many of the greatest achievers to ever exist either never attended college, or dropped out midway because they didn’t see the value in it.

It’s not because they were geniuses. It’s because they observed the situation and listened to their common sense and reasoning, instead of taking cues from what everyone else was doing, which was also the reason why they were able to make a big difference in the world.

Because they thought for themselves.

If the majority of the population were doing things the right way, 75% of Americans wouldn’t be broke and hate their job, and 1% of the world wouldn’t be worth more collectively than the other 99% combined.

Think about that next time you make a decision based on what everyone else is doing, especially when it comes to college.

“When I find myself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” —Mark Twain

“It is a miracle that curiosity survives formal education.” —Albert Einstein

“Formal education will make you a living. Self education will make you a fortune.” —Jim Rohn

Other INCREDIBLE educational resources: — “TED is a nonprofit devoted to spreading ideas—from science to business to global issues (really, all topics)—usually in the form of short, powerful talks (18 minutes or less).”

Coursera — “Free online courses from the best universities.”

Khan Academy — “Free. Online. Forever.”

edX — “Mission: Increase access to high-quality education for everyone, everywhere. Enhance teaching and learning on campus and online. Advance teaching and learning through research.”

Awaken The Giant Within: How To Take Immediate Control Over Your Mental, Emotional, Physical, and Financial Destiny by Tony Robbins — if there was only one book I could recommend to someone, this would be it. There is no better all-encompassing book on life and success on the planet.

My parting advice: if you’re a recent high school graduate or you’re thinking about going back to school, make the right decision for YOU and question EVERYTHING along the way. This single decision is a big one, and can determine the direction of your entire life.

And if you’re interested in a one-stop-shop program that’ll provide you with the mental, physical, and financial knowledge you need to attain personal power and design a life you’ll never need to take a vacation from, go here: Ultimate Freedom Lifestyle

What are your thoughts on college/formal education? Share in the comments below. But as a warning, think of my comments section as entering into my living room—if you don’t know how to have polite debate, I’m going to delete your shit and kick you out! Much love.

Breaking Free,

How To Reclaim Superpowers You Never Knew You Had

You have superpowers. We all do. Thing is, few of us know we have them, and even fewer actually use them.

And since we see so many people not using their superpowers, we think it’s normal not to have them.

But it hasn’t always been this way.

There was a time when you did use your superpowers. You used them when you were a kid.

When you were a kid, you would boldly exclaim, “I CAN DO ANYTHING!!”

And when you fell off your bike, you never said, “Oh, well, I guess I’m not good at that.” and then gave up.

Instead, you jumped back on your bike over and over again, each time with more determination, until finally, after falling 10 or 20 times, you learned how to ride your bike.

And from that day forward, life was glorious as you pedaled around vigorously, swooping through the neighborhood with your new speed racer.

NOTHING could stop you!

But then, slowly overtime, you grew up.

As a kid, no one would mess with your dreams, because it’s taboo for an adult to tell a kid they can’t do something.

But as you aged, your parents, your teachers, and more of your elder heroes began telling you what you could and couldn’t do.

They’d say things like, “You’re not a kid anymore. Grow up!”


“That’s not realistic. Stop being a dreamer!”

And overtime, with more and more people you looked up to telling you what you could and couldn’t do, your superpowers slowly began to fade, until one day, you woke up as just another worker bee.

Now, 80% of your days look something like this:

~You smash your annoying alarm clock on the floor. Jump into the shower, scrubbing as fast as you can. Grab your coffee, trying not to spill it as you rush to the car. Plow through traffic. Run into work. Take a deep breath as you clock in just in time. And proceed to work your 8 hour shift of pure monotony, where you do, more or less, the same shit you did the last 3 years of your one life, day in and day out.~

This is not what life is about.

Life is not about finding a good job, making sure you pay your bills on time, and being a proud voter every 4 years.

Life is about EXCITEMENT!

Life is about ADVENTURE!

Life is about LIVING!

When you were a kid, this was common sense. You never did shit that bored you.

But then you started listening to the “grown ups”.

That was your first mistake.

But how could you know any better—you were just a kid.

Well, the good news is—NOW you know better.

And NOW, you can do something about it.

The truth is, you still have your superpowers.

Sure, they’re a little dull, but they’re still there and eagerly awaiting to be used again.

But you can’t strengthen them unless you make a decision today.

Indeed, a powerful one.

You have to DECIDE that you will no longer accept a routine life that’s been stripped of any excitement or adventure, only to be reserved for 2 weeks a year—something we call vacations—when we escape our normal lives to go live the life we’re suppose to be living everyday.

I say trade in your vacation days for a life you don’t need to escape from.

Get rid of your possessions that you think you own, but really own you.

Save some money to go on a soul-seeking journey.

And when you have enough in your piggy bank, quit your job.

Then, simply, take off on your great adventure!

Don’t worry, if you decide this whole adventure thing isn’t for you, you can always go back to your cubicle where safety and mind-numbing boredom await you.

Hey, in the comments below, let me know what you think about this post and maybe share some stories of your own that connect with this. Much love!

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Food Fuel, Mental,

How I Make My Favorite Salad For Maximum Energy

 I absolutely love salads because they’re just about the best fuel you can consume… and they taste fucking delicious!

Again, when you’re eating high quality foods, this translates into a high quality mind and body. And since the quality of our thoughts determine the quality of our life, it all comes full circle and translates to a dope life.

Here’s how I make my favorite salad for maximum energy:


  • 6 ounce chicken breast (or fish, and chopped up)
  • A couple big handfulls of spinach or kale (chopped up)
  • A small handfull of cilantro (chopped up)
  • 1 Tomato (in the picture I added 6 cherry tomatoes plus half a regular tomato, all chopped up)
  • 1/4 cucumber (usually, but not always, and chopped up)
  • Half green pepper (chopped up)
  • 1/2 Lemon (squeezed)
  • Cap full of organic apple cider vinegar
  • A few douses of high quality olive oil (all olive oil is not created equal and often mixed with shitty oil like canola, which is highly processed)
  • Sea salt and pepper


  1. I put the spinach in a large salad bowl first, then chop up the cilantro and put that in, then chop up the rest of the ingredients and throw that in (all chopped up).
  2. Then I squeeze the lemon in the bowl, circling around the bowl so there’s even coverage on the food.
  3. Then pour in the cap full of apple cider vinegar, and squeeze the lemon in.
  4. Lastly, I sprinkle in some sea salt and pepper.
  5. Once all that’s in the bowl, I take two spoons and mix the salad up thoroughly.

Then I eat!!

The benefits of eating this delicious concoction are the fuel you get from it, the mental performance that is derived from eating whole foods, and the lightness of the food and no bogging down of your mind and body from having a full stomach, so you can still work or play hard and have max energy.

Bon apétite!


How To Program Your Mind For Wealth And Success With Incantations




“The Universe’s wealth circulates in my life; it’s wealth flows to me in AVALANCHES of abundance; all my needs, desires, and goals are met INSTANTANEOUSLY by infinite intelligence; and I give thanks for ALL of my good now and for ALL of the universe’s riches, for I am ONE with the Universe, and the Universe is Everything!”


“I now command my subconscious mind to direct me in helping as many people as possible today to better their lives, by giving me the strength, the emotion, the persuasion, the humor, the brevity, whatever it takes to show these people and get these people to change their life now!”



I know that I have the ability to achieve my definite purpose in life, therefore I demand of myself, persistent, continuous action towards its attainment and I here and now promise to render such action. I fully realize that no wealth or position will long endure unless it is built upon truth and justice, therefore I will engage in no transaction which does not benefit all to whom it affects. I am succeeding by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use and the cooperation of other people. I induce others to serve me because of my willingness to serve others. I eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, cynicism, anger, and fear by developing a true love for all humanity, because I know that a negative attitude towards others will never bring me success. I cause others to believe in me because I believe in them and believe in myself. This is my creed, my quest; to never stop striving for the top. To always keep moving forward. To always be the very best I can be. I am the power. I am the magic. I cannot be stopped. I am a winner. I promise to always be true to myself because I am the creator and master of my universe and I am responsible for making a positive difference in the world and to the quality of life in it. I live in constant and never-ending improvement.

Steve Jobs
Mental, Quotes, Stories,

5 Incredible Quotes by Steve Jobs That Instantly Changed My Life Forever

I had just moved back home from NYC and felt like a complete failure. I had lost my very lucrative day job, the entertainment business I started with my best friend wasn’t making any money, I owed $4,000 to another friend, my girlfriend dumped me, my lease was up so I was about to be homeless, and I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life.

Then my Uncle came down from upstairs, walked into the kitchen, and told me that Steve Jobs had just died.

A few days later I bought his biography and began spending hours reading it in a spare bedroom my Aunt generously offered me while I got my life together.

I can’t tell you how many times I cried reading that book. It really struck a chord in me.

I realized that I had been following the wrong path—one that was disconnected from my heart and intuition. This realization led to a 4 year journey that I’m still on which included riding my bicycle across the country twice (Bike to Believe), traveling from tropical island to tropical island with a billionaire for a summer, living in 7 major U.S. cities plus Medellin, Colombia, and creating my first product that helps others create the life of their dreams too, Ultimate Freedom Lifestyle.

Nearly everything I learned that sparked this renaissance of my mind and life can be found in the following quotes by Steve Jobs. If you take the time to really think about what he’s saying, I think his words will resonate with you as much as they did with me.

5 Incredible Quotes by Steve Jobs That Instantly Changed My Life Forever

1) “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something—your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

Before I set off on my cross country journey from NYC to Las Vegas, I was super nervous and it was a huge leap for me because I had never been to the west before and only had one friend out there.

I was giving up my old life for this new life and I didn’t know why other than the fact that my heart and intuition was telling me to do it.

Because of this quote by Steve Jobs, I was able to have faith that even though I didn’t have all the answers at the moment, I would eventually find them. And because of that faith, sure enough, 3 years later I did. And like Jobs said, it has made all the difference in my life.

2) “Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith.”

I’ve learned along the way that events in my life look sort of like a frequency wave—up and down, up and down. My life is constantly ebbing and flowing and when it takes a dip for the worst, it can seem like my whole life is falling apart and I should just give up. But if you understand that this is how things work in life, then when things take a dip for the worst, it won’t have as much of a negative effect on you because you were expecting it. Not in a negative way like you think bad things are always going to happen to you, but rather that shitty events are inevitable and the path to greatness is paved by hardship.

3) “You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.”

Man, this is crucial! The reality is that your work is going to take up a large part of your life—about 50 to 80 percent of it—so if you want to lead a fulfilling life, you gotta love what you do. Otherwise you’re going to spend a large part of your time stressed out and unhappy, which will seep into others areas of your life such as your relationships, finances, health, etc.

You may not know what kind of work will make you happy right now, but you have to start looking and experimenting. And you can never stop until you find it. Like Jobs said, you’ll know when you find it. DON’T SETTLE.

4) “Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

One time I recited this quote in my head while in an AT&T store staring at this beautiful woman standing over to the side waiting to get her phone fixed. I got so nervous for some reason, but after reading this quote off in my head, it gave me the perspective to approach her and introduce myself. I ended up getting her number and we went on a date the next night, which turned out fantastic to say the least. To this day she is one of my best friends and I’m so grateful to have her in my life.

The reality is that one day not too far out you’re going to die and this ride is going to end. And once you realize this, the petty worries and fears you have that hold you back from your greatness become insignificant and you develop a certain power to make big moves and not give a fuck because you recognize that this is your one life and you need to make the most of it.

5) “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

There is probably no bigger lesson that I’ve learned than the reality that most people are living with major fears and limiting beliefs about what’s possible in this world and for them. And what they do by default is pass on those limiting beliefs to the people around them. One of my biggest struggles over the past 5 years has been overcoming the opinions and judgements of others, be it my family, friends, or strangers.

If there’s one thing you MUST cultivate, it’s your ability to be self-reliant and look within for answers.

Everything you see in this world was created by other people just like you. They weren’t all extraordinarily smart or have innate super powers. They simply believed in themselves and listened to what their heart and intuition was telling them.

You must do the same.

Ignore the naysayers and listen to what your heart and intuition is telling you.

They’re never wrong.

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Sexy Time,

MEN: Why You Haven’t Gotten Laid In Forever And How To Increase Sexy Time ASAP

I was talking with a childhood friend the other day and he told me he hadn’t been with a woman in over 4 years!

I was shocked! 4 years?!?! I can understand 3-6 months… but 4 years?!

That’s real pain and suffering!

Having sex and connecting with the opposite sex is a real human NEED. It’s absolutely unacceptable to settle for piss poor results like that.

So, when I hear stories like my buddy’s, I always ask them one simple question:

“How many women have you approached in that time frame?”

The inevitable answer every.single.time is always—ZERO.

Guys, women are NOT going to approach you! It’s just NOT going to happen.

Therefore, meeting a woman is just like making a sale. It’s a numbers game!

The more women you approach, the higher your chances are of meeting one who is interested in you and, most importantly, YOU ARE INTERESTED IN! (Raise your standards damn it!!)

Yes, if you approach women—which you should always be doing unless you’re satisfied at the moment—you WILL get turned down. That’s just a fact of life.

My late great mentor Craig use to tell me, “If you’re not willing to look like a fool, don’t even get in the game.”

I live by this quote in every facet of my life because it’s the truth. The bridge to success is failure! And that’s true for just about any pursuit worth pursuing.

But if you get turned down, don’t take it personal. Maybe she has a boyfriend. Or maybe she’s in a bad mood.

Whatever it is, who cares!

If it doesn’t work out –> NEXT!!

You don’t have to be mean or an asshole, but dwelling on things you can’t control is a complete waste of time and emotional energy!

If you simply approach women everyday on the street, at work, at a bar, or wherever they may roam, you WILL find a little chica in no time. I promise you that!

I don’t care if you have zero game, this is how you get better!

I’m tellin you, before you know it you’ll be walking up to women and within minutes pulling them in and making out with them. Sounds crazy! But when you’re in the zone, you’re in the zone! Plus, it’s fun… try it!

PS: If for whatever reason you think you’re unattractive and no women would ever want you, you’re wrong.

Unlike men, women don’t care about physical attraction—not in the way men do.

Of course it’s a plus, but what women really want is a MAN.

A dude that is confident, takes charge, and can make decisions.

A dude who takes care of himself (and his loved ones), is clean, and has a little style/swag.

Pretty much no matter what you look like, if you come with a fun confident attitude with no expectations and you’re congruent (not trying hard or making up shit—aka being someone you’re not), then you can have Adriana Lima if you want. And I’m not joking!

I’ve seen guys who I could never imagine with a beautiful woman… with a beautiful woman.

Whether you’re just trying to get laid (lots of women are too) or you’re looking for “the one,” it requires looking within, sorting out your shit, and taking massive action! It’s not gonna be easy at first, but it will get easier over time with practice, and soon enough you’ll be making love with an incredible woman of your dreams!

I don’t specialize in dating, but I do specialize in developing your mindset and lifestyle and that’s truly where it starts! If you do the inner work, the rest will take care of itself because you’ll naturally attract high value women…. because now you’re a high value man!

If you’re looking for more in-depth mindset training, check out my online course, Ultimate Freedom Lifestyle!

If you want some tips and tricks to picking up a woman tonight… check out the RSD crew on YouTube.

growth and partying
Kurshot's Journal,

Kurshot’s Journal — Growth and Partying — June 14, 2016

growth and partying

I’ve noticed that my life ebbs and flows. And the biggest trend that I see is extreme stages of growth where I spend most of my time learning, and then swing to extreme stages of partying, or as I like to look at it as, mental rest (which I’ll get to in a second).

One thing I’ve learned is that it’s difficult for me to grow rapidly or produce great work while also partying.

And that’s for the simple fact that in order to rapidly grow, I must be 100% clean mentally and physically. That’s when my mind is the most functional, which allows me to learn the fastest.

In other words, I can’t be drinking or eating like shit, or staying out all night—all of which comes with the party lifestyle—if I want to grow rapidly.

But I also LOVE going balls to the wall and partying my ass off.

This is a result of the fact that moderation is difficult for me. When I do things, I take them to the extreme.

I don’t ride my bicycle to Walmart. I ride it from NYC to LA.

I don’t study for a few hours. I become obsessed with a subject for 10 hours a day for months at a time until I thoroughly understand it.

And the same is true for partying.

I don’t go out for a drink and come home before midnight. I go out for a drink and end up on a crazy 3 day bender that often leaves my body and mind mutilated.

But that’s what’s interesting.

The same also occurs during extreme times of growth. I’ll go without sleep and my mind will be on full-blast for months at a time.

In other words, regardless of whether I’m in growth-mode or party-mode, I’m putting my mind and body through hell.

This is interesting because, like I said, I see partying as a time for me to rest my mind. But I suppose it’s a different kind of rest.

When I’m in growth-mode, I get annoyed at people very easily and take everything very serious. My mind is in a very intense state over a long sustained period of time.

And when I’m in party-mode, I think everyone and everything is hilarious and take nothing serious. This allows me to relax my minds need to be so intense about everything.

All in all, I think this all stems from the fact that A) I’m an extremist, and B) the only thing consistent in my life is constant change.

I need constant change or my mind gets bored fast.

Constant growth-mode becomes very boring for me, but so does constant party-mode, hence why I’m constantly flip-flopping between the two.

So I’ve come to terms with this ebb and flow in my life. But sometimes I wonder if there’s a better way.

I’m not sure.

Because of course there are more “sustainable” ways of living, or rather, alternative lifestyles that are more balanced—that’s needless to say—but I don’t think that’s me.

I believe everyone has a core-self.

People can learn all sorts of different mindsets and strategies that produce better results in their life, but at the end of the day, everyone has a core-self that never changes.

I know for a fact that I’m the same person I was when I was 4 as I am today at 30.

I can remember all the adventures I use to go on and how my mind functioned back then, and nothing has really changed except for the fact that I have more life experience and a better set of mental tools to guide me through life.

This is why I always advocate accepting yourself as you are. And that’s for the simple fact that there are advantages and disadvantages to every lifestyle or way of thinking and being.

I find many advantages in my current lifestyle, as well as many disadvantages.

And I’m okay with that. That’s me, and I accept who I am at the core because A) I know my core-self will never change, and B) although not perfect, I think I’m pretty rad.


What I Learned By Pissing Off A Bunch Of Feminists


The other day, right after waking up with a killer hangover, I saw a feminist Fb post hating on men again. After coming back from a country (Colombia) where women overwhelmingly LOVE men like no other, it pissed me off and I reacted by writing a super harsh post tearing into feminists.

As one would expect, I got some pretty harsh comments from a few women—a few I really care about—and it made me feel like shit. But it did more than that, it made me reflect on the message I send out into this world and how I handle negativity in my life.

In life, there will forever be the negative and positive, the yin and the yang, and as individuals, we have a choice in what we focus on. And depending on what we focus on will result in how we feel.

For years I heavily researched government corruption, which had me focusing most of my attention on all the negativity in the world.

Although I don’t regret that chapter in my life because it taught me a lot, it also made me feel like shit a lot for the simple fact that I was focusing almost entirely on the negative.

So I quit focusing on all that shit and made a decision to do my part in changing the world for the better by doing what I do best—inspiring people to live bad ass lives. Then a few days ago I wrote that post and that shitty feeling came rushing back. Needless to say, I didn’t enjoy it.

The thing about feminism is it’s the same thing—it pins women against men and creates that negativity I so despise. I’ve had the pleasure of getting to know incredible women who absolutely adored men, and then watched them go down the death spiral I did with government corruption—accept with men.

They frame everything as men against women just as I once framed everything as the awaken against the sheeple.

But that’s not truth. The reality is things aren’t as simple as that.

The reason I stopped shitting on the masses and resenting the fuck out of them for the world they supposedly allow to exist through their ignorance alone, is because, like I’ve said before, we’re all doing the best we know how. And much of the reason why many of us don’t know how to do better (like being informed citizens) is for the simple fact that we were never taught how to do better.

And the same is true for the feminist movement.

I’m all for equal female rights, or walking around topless if a woman wants (like a man would), or whatever they want to do with their lives. But that’s not what I see from most feminists. Instead of focusing on real equality issues, what I see is a lot of hatred towards men in general.

Women taking out their personal frustrations with their love life lacking any excitement, and using feminism as an excuse to blame men for it instead of taking responsibility for the quality of their own life.

But I don’t believe that feminists truly hate men. I believe, in many cases, they were taught to hate men. I believe that there are forces out there that want us to fight each other—to pin whites against blacks, democrats against republicans, women against men. The more division the better.

These forces benefit when we divide because unity is strength, and strong people are hard to manipulate and control. Why play the game straight up when you can rig the system? At least that’s how many of those who have immense power feel.

They want us to fight each other because it diverts attention away from real issues like severe poverty, corporate welfare, and the war machine which sacrifices human life to make gargantuan profits.

We have to learn to stand up to these forces, and one of the best ways to fight these forces is to not fight at all. To choose everyday to focus on the positive instead of the negative—love instead of fear.

When we as individuals focus on the positive, we destroy the negative.

For example, Gandhi was only one man, yet because he chose not to fight at all (which led others to do the same), he was able to free an entire nation.

And that’s not a stretch—that’s a fact. One man’s actions literally freed an entire nation of people.

He said, “An eye for eye makes the whole world blind.”

But maybe even more powerful is when he said, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”

And this brings me back full circle.

If I want to help change the world, the best place to start is with me. And so that day, after feeling shitty from posting what I did, I realized that I have a choice too—to focus on love or fear. And ya know what—I choose love.

Maybe you’ll do the same.


My First Night In Key West

I left Medellin, Colombia so I could see family and spend some time with my favorite person in the world—my cousin, Shane James Zingo. He said he was headed back to Key West to live so I said I’d join him.

Fast forward ——>>>>

I arrived by Greyhound to Key West international airport and head a few miles into town on foot until I spot the first establishment with wifi (haven’t had cell service in 10 months), which ended up being Shanna Key Irish Bar.

I walk in and there’s 4 people sitting at the bar + the bartender, Nancy, and they all acknowledge me immediately and conversation ensues as fast as I sit down.

They ask me where I’m from. I tell them—“The world.”

I ask the older guy sitting on the bar stool to the right of me what he does for work and play, which led us to a conversation about how bad ass prop planes are.

He told me a story about him dropping into Alaska and, since it was so cold, having to keep the engine running, otherwise it would freeze up within minutes and he wouldn’t be able to start the engine again, which would result in him being stuck in the middle of no where and more than likely dying.

Just another day at work for him.

I went outside for a smoke and end up talking to a marine and his girlfriend about what combat was like. He seemed to revel in it—he loved the action.

Then Nancy (the bartender) comes out to tell me my Irish Nachos were done, which is basically nachos minus the nachos with steak fries in place.

They were fucking delicious.

The bartender and I get to chatting about her married life and how she had one kid of her own and four step children from her husband.

When they met his first wife was dying of cancer. They all knew each other and were cordial. After 14 years of marriage, she decided to move to Key West and live the care-free island life.

She shared some ideas for me to do while in Key West and at that same time someone was grabbing a cab heading downtown to Duvall street, so Nancy suggested I catch the cab with them.

I told the woman heading there I didn’t have any cash on me—only credit card—and she said don’t worry about it. So this woman (I forget her name), this dude named Danny, and I, headed to Duvall street.

We walked into a bar together and the first dude we ran into bought us all beers.

Key West is so friendly.

His name was Randall. He’s a traveling chef who works for the coast guard and the vinyard, Kendall Jackson. We got to talking about some pretty deep government shit and he mentioned he worked at Bohemian Grove and served Henry Kissinger a martini. He said he watched Colin Powell drunkenly take a piss on a tree.

As we were talking, he had his eye on this Scottish chick who had mangly yellow teeth and, although super nice, was far from attractive. I was surprised being that he wasn’t an ugly dude and had his shit together for the most part.

Then Randall and I decided to split from the girl and Danny, who ended up going back home to fuck.

We headed to a titty bar on Duvall Street called Red Garder Saloon. We walked in, and mind you, this whole time I’ve had my massive backpacking pack on me, so that gets searched by the bouncer and he has me open it wide so he can rummage through all of it.

After he gave me the okay, I ask him if I can give it to him to put somewhere, but he had zero interest in helping me with that, so I just took it upon myself to stash it in some dark corner next to the bar where no one could really see it.

Then I assessed the female action and it was pretty poor. After living in Medellin, Colombia, most women I meet in America just don’t compare.

Colombian women have long thick black hair, voluptuous bodies, tanned skin, and they’re super friendly and love to fuck and please their man.

American women often don’t take care of their appearance, aren’t that friendly or easy to approach, and in my experience, usually aren’t that passionate in bed. Of course that’s a massive generalization and an unfair comparison to Colombian women, which are among the most gorgeous in the world.

Anywho, while Randall is running around pulling out money from the ATM for more lap dances, a Russian stripper approaches me sternly like she’s Joseph Stalin and somehow thinks that’s going to seduce me.

I’m bored and she’s pretty hot so I continue chatting with her and try to soften her up. She tells me she use to live in NYC and worked there too but hates the cold so she came to Key West. Ultimately she just comes to America to make money so she can bring it back to her family in Russia. A story I’ve heard more than once.

After that jazz, I looked around for Randall and he was nowhere to be found, so I chat chitted with the bartender for a little while longer and then split.

As I walked out, the original taxi driver who gave us a ride to Duvall Street, Jodie, yelled out from her pink taxi whip to get my attention and asked me if I wanted to go on some rides with her. I said sure and jumped in, massive backpack in my lap.

We were cruising around and stopped so I could throw my bag in the back of this SUV taxi. When I lifted the window gate, the corner of the window jammed into my eye and for some odd reason I instantly felt super nauseous. I told her that as she came back to help me get my 80 pound bag into the back.

Right after telling her I felt nauseous, I sensed something bad was about to happen, so I rushed back to the front passenger seat in dire need of safety, sat down, and immediately passed out, falling into full-on dream mode. Next thing I know, the taxi driver is out of her car on my side with the door open slapping me in the face to wake up, “Are you okay Kurshot?!?! Are you okay?!?!”

I had totally blacked out from poking my eye. It was super weird.

After I came to and that debacle ended, she said she had to pick up four people (not enough seats in the taxi for me), so she told me to hang tight at the bar across the street and that she’d come back once she dropped these people off and pick me back up for more cruising around town. Being the trusting and care-free person I am, I left my bag with everything I own in this world in her car.

After about ten minutes of waiting alone in this bar, she pulled back up and I jumped back in. We drove around for a bit, and ended up picking up this guy who had lost his girlfriend, had both of their phones on him (which were both dead), and was limping around from what he believed to be a broken toe.

On our way to his hotel we stopped at an ATM so he could pull out fare money, then we headed to his hotel. As soon as we pulled into the hotel loop drive way thing, the taxi driver’s dispatch said through the radio that he just dropped off a woman to the same hotel who couldn’t find her boyfriend. That gave us a chuckle.

Jodi needed to make rent for the month so her goal for that day was 120 bucks. She was only at 93 bucks. She had 30 bucks to go till she could hop out of her pink taxi and hop into bed. So she went to a bar that was closing soon and staked it out waiting for the guests to come out suspecting they’d need a ride home.

This wasn’t her first rodeo.

I had told her that I was looking for a place to stay, so while I ran into the bar to take a piss, she got to talking to a plastered guest sitting outside alone drinking a pitcher by himself. When I walked out of the bar, she said, “Looks like Tom here is gonna give you a place to stay.”

I sat down and he poured me a cold one from his pitcher of beer, and shortly after Jodi took off on a call. I got her number of course. She was a cool lady.

As hammered as Tom was, him and I managed to make it back to his place where we chat chitted about his daughters and how one of them is brilliant and the other is an idiot. His words, not mine.

Shortly after arriving at his “sober living” apartment (As nice as he was, Tom was an alcoholic), I passed out and before I knew it, woke up to the sounds of an older gentlemen making breakfast.

Morning had arrived.

I had to use the bathroom first and take care of some biz-nass, but afterwards I went into the kitchen and startled him with a bold introduction.

His name was Doc. He was 67 and was cooking spaghetti for breakfast.

Regardless of his choice of breakfast food, I soon discovered he was well-read, especially in the area of history and government. We spoke about 9/11 and the gulf of Tompkins incident and the black panthers in the 60’s and Nixon and the Bush dynasty and the Kennedy dynasty and the state of affairs today. Then he said he had to split. But before he did, he told me I didn’t have to run off so quick; that he enjoyed our conversation and I could stay for a while if I wanted.

Taking him up on his offer, I past back out until being woken up again, but this time by a grey pony-tail haired dude who told me I had 15 minutes to get my shit and be out.

He was the resident manager who oversaw all the “recovering” alcoholics.

I didn’t make a fuss and gathered up my shit and took off on my next adventure.

Needless to say, my first night spent in Key West was one to remember.