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Mental,

How to Make It in New York City (And in Life)

When I lived in New York City, I was surrounded at work by aspiring actors, dancers, artists, and models. So many flocked to the city in pursuit of fame and fortune. But overtime, what I realized was that most of them weren’t aspiring to be anything other than a New York City waiter/waitress.

Unless you came from a well-off family, you’re ascension to fame and fortune first began with clearing tables at Applebee’s. If you were a more refined server, then it was Isabella’s on the upper west side where serving Bono his buttered bagel was a daily routine.

Working along side many of these peeps, I would ask myself, “How does one make it in the game?!”

Overtime, the answer to that question became very clear. 

In fact, it was simple.

Although I had heard every excuse in the book for why they didn’t get the part and/or had no work, the truth was, the people who put in the most amount of effort—the ones hustling everyday—they were the ones getting all the gigs. 

I always wondered how my actor buddy was going to get up in the morning and pound the pavement looking for his first big role when the night before he was out drinking with me.

He never did.

Instead he moved back home. Along with many others who, like clockwork, always joined the rest of the gang for a drink (or ten) after their shift. 

But I’m not ragging on these people. It’s tough out there.

In the world.

Trying to make your name shine brighter than the rest.

In the song, Empire State of Mind by Jay-Z, he said,

“City it’s a pity. Half of ya’ll won’t make it.”

He was being nice. It’s more like 95 percent.

The world is big and bad and merciless, and if you wanna make it in any endeavor worth talking about, you’re gonna have to do two things:

1) Toughen the fuck up. And 2) work your fucking ass off.

Nature ain’t nice, and if you want to survive in the jungle, you gotta act like a lion.

You gotta be able to work two jobs every day all week and then wake up on monday ready to do it again, with or without motivation or inspiration, for as long as it takes until you fucking make it.

And then work a shit ton more.

But the good news is, if you’re doing it right, you’ll be doing work you love. And if you’re doing work you love, then you ain’t workin.

So—whether actress or dancer or model or whatever it is that you aspire to be—if you wanna make it big, if you want your name to shine bright as fuck…

…DO YOUR F#*&$ING WORK!!

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Why Kanye is F*cking Up and What I’ve Learned From Him

 The reason why Kanye West is fucking up is because he’s allowed the energy pirates to jump on board his ship and rob his attention.

By constantly fighting off haters and trying to prove them wrong, he’s investing his time and energy into negativity, which causes two things to occur:

1) It adds fuel to his haters’ bond fire.

2) And it diminishes the amount of time and energy he can allocate to helping those who look to him for leadership; the lives in which he can make a real difference.

How do I know this? Because I’ve been fucking up in the same way.

I’ve been focusing so much time and mental energy on those who “attack” the way I think, the way I live, and how I express that to others.

Doing this has caused me much anger and unnecessary pain, and more importantly, has limited the amount of time and energy I can put into helping those who resonate with my message.

What both Kanye and myself need to learn is that haters are a figment of our imagination. If we choose to ignore their existence—POOF—they instantly disappear.

And so, as of this very moment, I’ve decided that haters no longer exist in my life. I will no longer allow them to rob me of my time and energy.

The only people that exist are those who resonate with my message. Those who I can serve. Everyone else is simply a distraction; an energy pirate.

So to those who are on board, I’m sorry for being selfish and wasting your time with my egotistical bullshit. I will no longer take advantage of your time and attention.

From here on out, my only focus is to serve you the best I know how. And if I can improve in any other ways, please let me know.

Thank you for your attention over the years. You’ve helped me grow in many ways and I appreciate you dearly.

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Financial,

3 Reasons Why Poor People Stay Poor (And How to Get Filthy Rich)

Let’s jump right into it. Here are the 3 reasons why poor people stay poor (and how to get filthy rich):

1) Deep down, poor people don’t really want money: Sure, if you walked up to someone and was like, “Hey, here’s a million dollars.” they would more than likely shit themselves.

But that’s one of few ways the average person could become financially abundant considering how they currently think. And like the lottery curse proves, within a few years, more than likely they’d either spend all the money and go broke, or end up accidentally killing themselves in some crazy fashion.

The reason why poor people don’t really want money is because for their entire life, all their poor family, friends, and community members have been telling them shit like, “money is the root of all evil”, “money doesn’t grow on trees”, “it takes money to make money”, and “rich people are crooks”.

And so, after 20 years of hearing this absolute bullshit everyday of their lives, they’ve been subconsciously programmed to associate negativity to becoming financially abundant, and therefore, don’t even entertain the possibility that they could be, so they never become financially abundant. Simple as that.

Money is not the root of all evil. Money is a tool and can be used for good or bad—just like a knife, hammer, car, or any other tool we use. I’ve never heard anyone call a knife the root of all evil, but nevertheless, you can easily kill someone with a knife, and many have.

The reality is, how money is used is based on the values of the person and culture at hand. And you can just as easily use money to help others (which happens all the time) as you can to hurt them. It’s a human choice. It has nothing to do with money itself.

If you want to become wealthy, you have to get rid of the many limiting beliefs about money that poor people blare out on repeat like a broken record.

2) Since poor people have limiting beliefs about money, they never make the decision to become rich: How does a fireman become a fireman? How does a school teacher become a school teacher? Well, before they can become either of those things, they have to make a decision to become them! And because poor people are culturally allowed to believe that they can become a fireman or school teacher, many of them make a decision to become one and, sure enough, they become one. Crazy how that works, right?!

When a poor person says he wants to be a fireman or school teacher, the other poor people support his decision because “that’s reasonable” but if that same poor person was to say something like, “I’m going to become super wealthy one day!”, his poor peers would laugh at him, “Yeah, sure Billy!! You’re gonna be the next Bill Gates… hahaha!”

But a wealthy person would never say that; they’d never laugh at an awesome goal like that. The poor person laughs because he’s been mentally trained to believe that being rich is not possible, whereas the wealthy person hasn’t been taught that, doesn’t believe it, hence why they’re wealthy.

If you want to become rich, the first step is making a decision to become rich. 

3) Since poor people never make a decision to become rich, they never seek out the knowledge and strategies to do so: When poor people want to become a school teacher, what do they do? They go to school to learn how to become a school teacher. Or an engineer. Or a nurse, Or whatever. But one thing that permanently remains off that what’s-possible-for-me list, is becoming rich.

Since we were never taught anything empowering about money from our poor parents or our poor public schools, it’s never dawned on us that we can study and learn how to become rich. 

Rich people aren’t aliens.

They didn’t come from some other planet. They’re humans just like us. The only difference between poor and rich people is how they think. That’s it. Sure, some are born into money, but the reality is that many rich families lose their wealth and become poor again. It happens all the time. And I’ll tell ya, it’s almost always because the next generation didn’t learn the mental tools or worth ethic they needed to retain the families wealth and just became little spoiled bitches who pissed away everything their parents worked hard for.

Conversely, everyday a ton of poor families become rich families because someone in the family broke through the poor barrier by learning what they needed to learn and working their asses off to become rich.

How did they do it? 

By becoming a student of the rich mindset. By picking up books on financial intelligence and how to make more money, then reading them. By attending seminars on money and investing. By learning about business and how to start and run one that is successful. By seeking out rich people and adding value to their lives in return for learning their ways so they can copy how they became rich.

That’s how it’s done.

So the end of the day, being poor is a choice. Again, the only difference between poor people and rich people is how they think. So get rid of your limiting beliefs taught to you by your poor elders and supported by your poor peers, make a decision to become financially abundant, and go out there and find the books, seminars, podcasts, videos, or the countless other educational material that will teach you to be rich, learn what you have to learn, do what you have to do, and become fucking rich! Trust me, you can do it!

I’ve been a rich man and I’ve been a poor man—and I choose rich every fucking time.”

—Wolf of Wall Street

My Top 3 Financial Book recommendations:

Buy them. Read them. Become rich.

Rich Dad, Poor Dad: What The Rich Teach Their Kids About Money That The Middle And Poor Class Do Not

Think And Grow Rich

4 Hour Work Week: Escape Escape 9 to 5, Live Anywhere, And Join The New Rich

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Mental,

7 Eye Opening Quotes About Attaining Happiness

 

Happiness is a notion everyone understands and seeks. It’s even stated in our Declaration of Independence, “Life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.”

Although we understand what it means and that we want it, it seems as though few have obtained it.

So the question remains, how do we create happiness in our lives?

Below are 7 eye opening quotes about attaining happiness:

Quote #1:

“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”

—Epictetus

Thinking about issues pertaining to people, events, or other things that are not within our control is pointless because there is no way to change the given situation. However, what we can change is our attitude toward the given situation and the energy we spend thinking about it. One of the best ways to achieve this is by simply accepting the given situation for what it is with the understanding that it can’t be changed, and simply moving on by directing our thoughts and energy elsewhere.

Quote #2:

“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.”

—Abraham Lincoln

What our 16th President is trying to tell us is that we have the power within us to choose how happy we are. A great way to achieve this is by directing our focus away from all that doesn’t bring us happiness, and towards all that does; from what is negative in our life to what is positive. No matter who we are or what our current situation in life is, if we look around, we can always find something positive to direct our attention to.

Quote #3:

“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.”

—Groucho Marx

Our mind is very powerful and it has the ability to go back into the past and relive events, or conversely, shoot forward into the future and conjure up events that haven’t even occurred yet. This can be a powerful mental ability when we use it properly, but since our mind has a bad habit of defaulting to what could go wrong due to primitive survival instincts, instead, we often use these mental abilities to focus on negative events and/or outcomes. But since we can’t change the past, and our future is untold, happiness is best found in the present; a place where we have the power to create change and take charge of our lives.

Quote #4:

“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.”

—Helen Keller

Opportunities are abundant, but if we remain focused on what happened behind us, it can be exceedingly difficult to notice the opportunity that lies in front of us.

Quote #5:

“A table, a chair, a bowl of fruit and a violin; what else does a man need to be happy?”

—Albert Einstein

I don’t know if you’re interested in fruit or the sound of a violin, but the point Einstein is attempting to make here is that happiness is more simple than we may imagine. I’m sure you can think of a time in your life when you were attending a big event or doing something grandiose and it gave you no joy. And I’m sure you can also think of a time when you were doing something so simple and having an absolute blast. Happiness is not complex or expensive. It’s more simple and much cheaper than it’s often portrayed.

Quote #6:

“Action may not always bring happiness; but there is no happiness without action.

—Benjamin Disraeli

We don’t always have the answers to our problems. These situations can create confusion, which often leads to paralysis or inaction. When we’re stuck in a bad spot in life, we may not know the best route to take to get us out of the mess we’re in, but one thing is certain, if we do nothing, our situation will only get worse off. In other words, action is better than doing nothing.

Quote #7:

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”

—Herman Cain

This quote is powerful because work takes up such a large part of our lives and when we’re not doing work we love, it can be extremely taxing on our emotions and energy. It’s very common to think of all work as painful, but this is a limiting belief. There is something for everyone out there, and when we find our passion and we’re doing work we love, time flies by and there’s an immense feeling of joy that is unmatched from any other experience. There is no feeling like overcoming a challenge and achieving what you set out to accomplish. If you haven’t found your passion yet, keep looking and don’t settle. Like all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.