Life is a series of plateaus. If we’re doing it right, then it means we’re constantly growing. And right now, I’m going through a massive transition in life, or in other words, I’m working to overcome a plateau.
The process has been nothing short of brutal, but I don’t think it needs to be. Allow me to explain.
Besides the last week or so, I haven’t been writing or sharing much on FB for a while (3-6 months).
For example, from Sept 18th to Oct 6th, I wrote 3 posts, and none of them carried any significant value to others or myself. If anything, more like travel updates.
And if you know me, that number should be more like 30 posts. And each one, a page long.
It’s most certainly due to the stage of life I’m in.
I’m going from student to creator.
I’m going from reading books and scouring the internet for knowledge 10 hours a day, to working tirelessly to create for the benefit of others. Of course, with the selfish intention of turning my passion into my career.
By helping others (something I do enjoy), I help myself.
Problem is, I’m not having the success I predicted I would have in the time frame I predicted I would have it.
Lofty expectations strike again!
I drastically underestimated the learning curve for online marketing. But really, more than anything, I underestimated the time it would take me to figure out which direction I wanted to travel down with the business that is me, aka, my personal brand.
“I’m not a businessman. I’m a business, man!” –Jigga
And so, basically what had me down was the fact that I’m 30 years old going on 31 in a month, have been preaching all the attributes of a successful man living his dream life, but haven’t truly created ultimate freedom yet.
And that’s the mission—ultimate freedom.
I can’t call up Karla, my lovely friend in El Paso, and tell her to pack up her shit because we’re flying to Paris tomorrow to enjoy a bottle of wine under the Eiffel tower.
And if I can’t do that, then I haven’t achieved my mission.
And if I haven’t achieved my mission, then I haven’t surpassed my expectations.
And if I haven’t surpassed my expectations, then I’m not a happy camper.
And if I’m not a happy camper, then I’m not gonna feel the urge or have access to the creativity necessary to write empowering shit.
Basically, I’m feeling like a failure.
I feel stuck at a plateau. And like Bruce Lee once said, “There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”
So here’s where my vast knowledge of personal development comes in and saves the day.
Here’s what’s going on:
I’m at a plateau right now in my personal growth and I don’t want to be here. I want to move forward. I want to grow. And more than anything, I want to be FREE in the greatest sense of the word.
I want to do what I want, when I want, where I want, with whom I want, as much as I want.
And I can’t do that until I move past this plateau.
But here’s the thing, that’s okay.
I need to manage my expectations for the time required to make my dream a reality, and if I do that, if I manage my expectations on how long it’s gonna take for me to get to the next stage of my life (ultimate freedom), then I won’t get down on myself or feel like a failure. And then I’ll feel more inspired and empowered to write shit that all of you love (including myself).
So what I need to do is develop more patience and lower my expectations, or rather, recalibrate my expectations.
Because at the end of the day, I know I’m going to achieve what I set out to achieve. I’m either gonna achieve ultimate freedom… or die trying.
Not to sound cliché, but that’s the truth. There’s no other path for me.
It’s like Will Smith said in one of his interviews, “The only thing that I see that is distinctly different about me is I’m not afraid to die on a treadmill. I will not be out-worked, period. You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me, you might be sexier than me, you might be all of those things you got it on me in nine categories. But if we get on the treadmill together, there’s two things: You’re getting off first, or I’m going to die. It’s really that simple.”
And so, I think this is something many or even most of us need to implement into our lives.
We need to recalibrate our expectations and have patience with the process.
And if we do this, we’ll live much more fulfilling lives.
Because if you’re doing it right, you’ll always be growing. You’ll always be reaching for the next plateau.
So you gotta learn to understand and enjoy the process.
And probably more than anything, you gotta learn to love yourself, no matter what stage you’re in.
QUESTION OF THE DAY: Are working to overcome a plateau? And if so, do you feel that you’ve been managing your expectations and having patience with the process, or doing something else? Let me know in the comments section at the bottom.