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Plateaus, Expectations, And Cultivating Patience With The Process of Growth

Life is a series of plateaus. If we’re doing it right, then it means we’re constantly growing. And right now, I’m going through a massive transition in life, or in other words, I’m working to overcome a plateau.

The process has been nothing short of brutal, but I don’t think it needs to be. Allow me to explain.

Besides the last week or so, I haven’t been writing or sharing much on FB for a while (3-6 months).

For example, from Sept 18th to Oct 6th, I wrote 3 posts, and none of them carried any significant value to others or myself. If anything, more like travel updates.

And if you know me, that number should be more like 30 posts. And each one, a page long.

It’s most certainly due to the stage of life I’m in.

I’m going from student to creator.

I’m going from reading books and scouring the internet for knowledge 10 hours a day, to working tirelessly to create for the benefit of others. Of course, with the selfish intention of turning my passion into my career.

By helping others (something I do enjoy), I help myself.

Problem is, I’m not having the success I predicted I would have in the time frame I predicted I would have it.

Lofty expectations strike again!

I drastically underestimated the learning curve for online marketing. But really, more than anything, I underestimated the time it would take me to figure out which direction I wanted to travel down with the business that is me, aka, my personal brand.

“I’m not a businessman. I’m a business, man!” –Jigga

And so, basically what had me down was the fact that I’m 30 years old going on 31 in a month, have been preaching all the attributes of a successful man living his dream life, but haven’t truly created ultimate freedom yet.

And that’s the mission—ultimate freedom.

I can’t call up Karla, my lovely friend in El Paso, and tell her to pack up her shit because we’re flying to Paris tomorrow to enjoy a bottle of wine under the Eiffel tower.

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And if I can’t do that, then I haven’t achieved my mission.

And if I haven’t achieved my mission, then I haven’t surpassed my expectations.

And if I haven’t surpassed my expectations, then I’m not a happy camper.

And if I’m not a happy camper, then I’m not gonna feel the urge or have access to the creativity necessary to write empowering shit.

Basically, I’m feeling like a failure.

I feel stuck at a plateau. And like Bruce Lee once said, “There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.”

So here’s where my vast knowledge of personal development comes in and saves the day.

Here’s what’s going on:

I’m at a plateau right now in my personal growth and I don’t want to be here. I want to move forward. I want to grow. And more than anything, I want to be FREE in the greatest sense of the word.

I want to do what I want, when I want, where I want, with whom I want, as much as I want.

And I can’t do that until I move past this plateau.

But here’s the thing, that’s okay.

I need to manage my expectations for the time required to make my dream a reality, and if I do that, if I manage my expectations on how long it’s gonna take for me to get to the next stage of my life (ultimate freedom), then I won’t get down on myself or feel like a failure. And then I’ll feel more inspired and empowered to write shit that all of you love (including myself).

So what I need to do is develop more patience and lower my expectations, or rather, recalibrate my expectations.

Because at the end of the day, I know I’m going to achieve what I set out to achieve. I’m either gonna achieve ultimate freedom… or die trying.

Not to sound cliché, but that’s the truth. There’s no other path for me.

It’s like Will Smith said in one of his interviews, “The only thing that I see that is distinctly different about me is I’m not afraid to die on a treadmill. I will not be out-worked, period. You might have more talent than me, you might be smarter than me, you might be sexier than me, you might be all of those things you got it on me in nine categories. But if we get on the treadmill together, there’s two things: You’re getting off first, or I’m going to die. It’s really that simple.”

And so, I think this is something many or even most of us need to implement into our lives.

We need to recalibrate our expectations and have patience with the process.

And if we do this, we’ll live much more fulfilling lives.

Because if you’re doing it right, you’ll always be growing. You’ll always be reaching for the next plateau.

So you gotta learn to understand and enjoy the process.

And probably more than anything, you gotta learn to love yourself, no matter what stage you’re in.


QUESTION OF THE DAY: Are working to overcome a plateau? And if so, do you feel that you’ve been managing your expectations and having patience with the process, or doing something else? Let me know in the comments section at the bottom.

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Kurshot's Thoughts, Rituals,

Drugs, Weird Rituals, And Learning To Accept Yourself

Someone said to me, “Doesn’t that video go against your message and what you preach to others?”

What she was referring to was a video I made of my best friends and I drinking and smoking weed at a sunday football party we threw at a buddy’s place, which contradicts my overall message about staying healthy to produce best results in life.

So here’s the thing… it’s not one or the other, and there’s a time and a place.

We have this magical ability to control the choices we make in life, and although I agree (and preach) that being 100% sober, eating super healthy food (aka REAL FOOD), and getting some form of exercise, will dramatically increase the quality of your life…

(because your mind and body will be healthier, which will lead to better mood, energy, and decision-making, which will lead to a better life)

…it doesn’t mean that it’s not good for you to go off the rails from time to time.

In my opinion, I enjoy going off the rails and not giving a fuck about anything.

I enjoy the change of pace and scenery.

I enjoy being “self-destructive”.

Not always, but sometimes.

For example, I enjoy using weed to shut off my incredibly active (and annoying) brain, ordering in pizzas, and binge watching TV series for a week straight.

I enjoy going out every night of the week (for a short period) and getting hammered with friends while we laugh the night away from our total and utter stupidity.

But I don’t live the greater part of my life that way because I believe, overall, it’s a waste of time, destroys my ability to think clearly and create for others, and ultimately, won’t lead to a fulfilling life.

I’m not perfect. I’m just a human being. But more than anything, I’m fucking weird! And being weird comes with weird rituals.

I’ll work sunup to sundown, completely obsessed with achieving my goal, and get 5 hours of sleep every night for 3 months straight! And then, to give my mind and body rest from thinking non-stop and getting little sleep, I’ll flip it and party for two weeks straight until I can’t remember my name.

Is that balanced and the most sustainable way to live? I don’t know. Probably not.

But honestly, I don’t care.

Why?

Because that’s who I am and that’s what works for me (at least for now).

So I’m cool with it.

The truth is, I’m not good at moderation. I’m an extremist.

I’m either all-in or all-out.

Now, take my sister. She doesn’t live her life like that and maintains a fairy balanced life.

That works for her, and that’s awesome. Seriously.

But that’s not me.

You have to figure out what works for you and what doesn’t.

There’s no one path. There are many paths.

But the biggest issue I’ve personally found with being an extremist whose habits are weird as fuck, is the judgement.

Not from others—but from myself.

When I’m not working and laser focused on achieving my long-term goals, or I do something ridiculously stupid because my mind isn’t 100% sharp from partying or being super lazy, I bash the shit out of myself.

Well…. I used to.

I don’t do that anymore. I’ve learned to accept myself, weird rituals and all.

You’ve gotta learn what works for you and what doesn’t, and sometimes doing the “wrong thing”, is actually the right thing, because it works for you.

It may not work for many others, or even the rest of the world, but if it works for you, that my friend, is all that matters.


Wanna learn more about weird and crazy habits/rituals by the most successful people in the world? (Like how Sigmund Freud used cocaine elixirs to “stimulate” his work or Benjamin Franklin taking “air showers” (sat outside naked) every morning.)

Check out this audiobook: Daily Rituals: How Artists Work

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QUESTION OF THE DAY: Do you have any weird habits? If so, what are they and how do you feel about them? (Answer in the comment section below)


 

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Kurshot's Thoughts, Life,

How To Live A Mediocre Life

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My mission in life is to think small, live within my comfort zone, and shoot for realistic goals.

I’m going to a attend an overpriced 4 year college in a major I randomly picked out of a hat, rack up enough student loans to put me in debt for the next 10 years, and find an average day job with good benefits where expectations are low, I can skate by from merely showing up, and make enough to pay off my student loans.

I’ll marry a woman my parents and friends approve of, throw an extravagant wedding neither of us can afford, and have 2.5 kids hoping we get them into a good school and have enough money leftover after expenditures to put towards their college fund.

I’ll take a 2 week vacation every year to a cliché destination spot where I’ll pay 3 times more for drinks and spend the majority of my time laying on the beach turning over every 15 minutes to get an even tan.

During the week I will wake up to an annoying alarm clock, quickly scrub my body in the shower, drink my coffee, and rush off to work where I’ll sit in traffic, become enraged because I’m going to be late for work again for the 2nd time that week, and later, explain to my boss that it’ll never happen again.

At work I will daydream about what my life could be like while sitting in on endless meetings where we analyze data reports and get scolded for not meeting our quota the previous month.

After enduring another grueling and monotonous 8 hour shift, I will walk hopelessly to my car, head to the nearest bar, and proceed to drink until my anxiety dissipates and I can have a normal conversation with someone without wanting to strangle them or hang myself.

On my way home, I’ll freshen up so my wife doesn’t smell the stench of draft beer on my breath and try to come up with a good story for where I’ve been for the last 4 hours.

After arriving home, I’ll hang up my monkey suit, slither into bed, and mentally escape into my favorite TV series for an hour before passing out and repeating this routine 4 more times that week.

On the weekends, I will go out and get hammered with my buddies, or take the family somewhere nice where I will also get hammered.

By Sunday, I will feel like shit, lay on the couch all day not wanting to do anything, and dread the idea of work on Monday.

I will repeat this routine every week and every year for the next 40 years of my one life, until I finally retire, my company fucks me out of my pension, and my wife and I have to eek by on social security checks.

From that point forward, statistically, I will have roughly 5 years to live before the regrets build up and I realize I blew my life away trying to live a life outlined by the status quo.

I will die, be buried in the local cemetery, and soon be forgotten.

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THE MESSAGE: Don’t let this be your story. Don’t settle. Dream BIG. Think outside of the box. Don’t follow the crowd. Do work that excites you. Don’t live your life based on how others think you should live it. Figure out the life YOU want to live, and never stop until that vision becomes a reality.

Don’t live ordinary. Live EXTRAORDINARY!

Much love <3

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Why Going To College Is An Uneducated Decision

Formal education such as college—although beneficial in some minute ways—is the most expensive and inefficient way to learn, grow, and become of value to oneself and to society.

In comparison to other forms of education, formal education does little to prepare human beings for a fulfilling life, let alone a rewarding career.

If grade school, college, and other formal education was so beneficial based on the time and money people invest in it, governments, corporations, and manipulative marketers wouldn’t be able to get away with a quarter of the shit they do.

Most 401k’s wouldn’t exist as they are.

Half of the prescription drug companies would vanish.

And I’d be out of business (Ultimate Freedom Lifestyle) because everyone would already know and understand all the information I sell.

One shining example of how poor a job formal education does is the complete lack of financial education offered from grade school on.

Money is one of the most important subjects to a citizen’s well-being and yet it’s not taught in public schools and most college level financial courses are a joke.

You’ll learn more from a simple 2-3 hour read such as Rich Dad, Poor Dad, then you will in the combined 16 years of grade school and college.

That fact is horrendous and embarrassing.

And here’s the craziest part: in this day and age, all the information that has ever existed—specifically that found in colleges—can be found on the Internet FOR FREE.

If people truly want to learn and become more valuable to themselves and others through the acquisition of knowledge, all they have to do is type in their question on Google, YouTube, or Quora, and they’ll be able to learn just about anything they desire, and certainly anything taught in a University.

(Exceptions include becoming a lawyer, doctor, engineer, etc, where a degree is essentially mandatory.)

Any problem that could possibly exist in one’s life, someone else has, more than likely, already figured out, and the answers are all on the interwebs right at your fingertips.

And if you’re dead set on taking a course from the likes of MIT, HARVARD, or even YALE, they’re all offered online for free on their own websites, through iTunesU, or many other resources such as Coursera.

Here’s what it says on MIT’s Open CourseWare page:

“There’s no signup, no enrollment, and no start or end dates. The entire OCW collection is always here for you. Freely browse and use it at your own pace.

Knowledge is your reward. We don’t offer credit or certificates for using OCW. Instead, use OCW to guide your own life-long learning, or use OCW to teach others.”

If the accumulation and application of valuable knowledge is really what you’re after—and it should be—it makes no sense to drop $50-100k on student loans and then spend the next 10+ years living in debt struggling to pay it off if you don’t immediately land a $100k+/year job, which clearly most won’t.

Today, accruing such debt is absolutely absurd.

The truth is, with student loans being handed out like candy—essentially free money in the short term—the market has adjusted and Universities have dramatically raised their prices on tuition to astronomical rates.

Students don’t care because they’re too naive to realize the impact of their decisions on their future self. I see it all the time; friends stuck working jobs they hate because they have to make $600-$800/monthly student loan payments.

If they take a job in their chosen field but realize it’s not for them, and then decide they want to take off and go travel the world to expand their experiences and figure out what they want to do with their life—they can’t.

They’re trapped.

Since 2008, student loan debt has gone up 84% (WTF?!)

It’s no longer about educating the future of this country, it’s about profiteering off the naiveté of the young and inexperienced.

If you want to learn, grow, and be of value to yourself and the world, find the right books, videos, and other resources on personal development, learn from them, and begin immediately applying what you’ve learned to real life situations.

If you’re NOT the entrepreneurial type, you can easily get an entry level job at a good company in a field you’re interested in, and if you show promise by adding tremendous value to the company, you can shoot right up the ladder, especially in a sales position.

The other thing is companies are beginning to change their rules about having a degree because there are too many examples of non-formally-educated 20-something year olds making a massive splash in the business world.

And if you DO have that entrepreneurial spirit, college is definitely not the path for you. You can start an online business that solves a bothersome problem in your OWN life as well as many others, or simply pick any one of the hundreds and thousands of business models out there that exist. Remember, you don’t have to reinvent the wheel. All you need to do is fulfill a need in the marketplace.

Stop listening to the “experts” because they’re just regurgitating rhetoric that appeals to the status quo.

If you want to get ahead of the lethargic masses, you need to become a leader—first for yourself, and secondly, for others.

You need to think for yourself and make your own observations about what’s going on in the world, this way you can make the best decisions for YOUR life.

Otherwise, you’ll more than likely end up in massive amounts of debt, become trapped working a job you hate in order to pay it all off, and end up living a life you dread.

If you take all your cues from the status quo, then you’ll never get further than the masses, which trust me, won’t be very far.

As much as it sucks to think about, most people are headed for a life of mediocrity, and they won’t figure it out until it’s far too late and the foundation of their lives have already been established.

This of course makes it much more difficult for people to change once the “concrete has set”, because at that point, most will settle for mediocrity instead of putting in the work to rebuild their lives.

So don’t follow what everyone else is doing. Be a leader for yourself and others.

And as a rule of thumb, ALWAYS question the status quo. If everyone’s doing it, there’s a high chance it’s the wrong way or there’s a better way.

Many of the greatest achievers to ever exist either never attended college, or dropped out midway because they didn’t see the value in it.

It’s not because they were geniuses. It’s because they observed the situation and listened to their common sense and reasoning, instead of taking cues from what everyone else was doing, which was also the reason why they were able to make a big difference in the world.

Because they thought for themselves.

If the majority of the population were doing things the right way, 75% of Americans wouldn’t be broke and hate their job, and 1% of the world wouldn’t be worth more collectively than the other 99% combined.

Think about that next time you make a decision based on what everyone else is doing, especially when it comes to college.

“When I find myself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” —Mark Twain

“It is a miracle that curiosity survives formal education.” —Albert Einstein

“Formal education will make you a living. Self education will make you a fortune.” —Jim Rohn

Other INCREDIBLE educational resources:

TED.com — “TED is a nonprofit devoted to spreading ideas—from science to business to global issues (really, all topics)—usually in the form of short, powerful talks (18 minutes or less).”

Coursera — “Free online courses from the best universities.”

Khan Academy — “Free. Online. Forever.”

edX — “Mission: Increase access to high-quality education for everyone, everywhere. Enhance teaching and learning on campus and online. Advance teaching and learning through research.”

Awaken The Giant Within: How To Take Immediate Control Over Your Mental, Emotional, Physical, and Financial Destiny by Tony Robbins — if there was only one book I could recommend to someone, this would be it. There is no better all-encompassing book on life and success on the planet.

My parting advice: if you’re a recent high school graduate or you’re thinking about going back to school, make the right decision for YOU and question EVERYTHING along the way. This single decision is a big one, and can determine the direction of your entire life.

And if you’re interested in a one-stop-shop program that’ll provide you with the mental, physical, and financial knowledge you need to attain personal power and design a life you’ll never need to take a vacation from, go here: Ultimate Freedom Lifestyle


What are your thoughts on college/formal education? Share in the comments below. But as a warning, think of my comments section as entering into my living room—if you don’t know how to have polite debate, I’m going to delete your shit and kick you out! Much love.

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Kurshot's Thoughts,

Why Kanye is F*cking Up and What I’ve Learned From Him

 The reason why Kanye West is fucking up is because he’s allowed the energy pirates to jump on board his ship and rob his attention.

By constantly fighting off haters and trying to prove them wrong, he’s investing his time and energy into negativity, which causes two things to occur:

1) It adds fuel to his haters’ bond fire.

2) And it diminishes the amount of time and energy he can allocate to helping those who look to him for leadership; the lives in which he can make a real difference.

How do I know this? Because I’ve been fucking up in the same way.

I’ve been focusing so much time and mental energy on those who “attack” the way I think, the way I live, and how I express that to others.

Doing this has caused me much anger and unnecessary pain, and more importantly, has limited the amount of time and energy I can put into helping those who resonate with my message.

What both Kanye and myself need to learn is that haters are a figment of our imagination. If we choose to ignore their existence—POOF—they instantly disappear.

And so, as of this very moment, I’ve decided that haters no longer exist in my life. I will no longer allow them to rob me of my time and energy.

The only people that exist are those who resonate with my message. Those who I can serve. Everyone else is simply a distraction; an energy pirate.

So to those who are on board, I’m sorry for being selfish and wasting your time with my egotistical bullshit. I will no longer take advantage of your time and attention.

From here on out, my only focus is to serve you the best I know how. And if I can improve in any other ways, please let me know.

Thank you for your attention over the years. You’ve helped me grow in many ways and I appreciate you dearly.